We tend to overestimate costs of changing, underestimate costs of staying the same and regret never taking a chance – benefits & possibilities > worst-case scenarios.Most people don’t take all-or-nothing leaps of faith – usually, people quit jobs after years of awakening & safely testing changes – eliminate risk so you know what to do before quitting.Don’t act on your fear of running out of money – causes you to do things you’d hate – chasing solutions reinforces the fear & distracts you – learn to coexist with it so it fades.Success (not being good enough), money – (going broke), health – (getting sick), belonging – (not being loved), happiness – (not being happy).Sooner or later, you’ll inevitably be forced to face your fears on the pathless path:.After crisis moments, we snap out of our default mode of thinking and are forced to question our life – we start putting “life first” vs career first – we shift towards the pathless path.Junger reflected, “humans don’t mind hardship, in fact, they thrive on it what they mind is not feeling necessary.””
Why? Because at war, they felt part of something, deeply connected to the men and women they were serving with. “Despite dealing with post‑traumatic stress disorder, many of the soldiers wanted to return to dangerous warzones.On the pathless path, you simply do the work first and then decide if you want to continue.” “On the default path, you have to get the job before you can do the work.“If the default path is the story of the industrial world, then the pathless path is the natural story for a digital‑native world in which nothing can stop us from finding others who share our desires, ideas, and questions.”.Money might help pay for therapy, time off, and healing retreats, but it won’t help you come to a place where you really trust and know that everything will be okay.” “The longer we spend on a path that isn’t ours, the longer it takes to move towards a path that is.With wonder, the need to cope becomes less important and the discomfort on the current path becomes more noticeable.” “Wonder is the state of being open to the world, its beauty, and potential possibilities.“The headline, “Quits To Live on a Sailboat” seems more impressive and is easier to talk about than “Couple Slowly and Purposefully Tests Out a Life Transition while Aggressively Saving Money over Five Years.“”.He noted that the ancient Greek translation for “work” was literally “not‑at‑leisure.” In Aristotle’s own words, “we are not‑at‑leisure in order to be‑at‑leisure.”” “For most of history, leisure was one of the most important parts of life for people in many cultures.Without being aware that a chance is taking place, he is gradually lulled into unconsciousness.” As the temperature is gradually increased, the frog feels restless and uncomfortable, but not uncomfortable enough to jump out. “If you don’t get out now, you may end up like the frog that is placed in a pot of fresh water on the stove.“But the longer he spent on the path, he realized that the real promise had been that “life’s existential fears are traded for certainty.””.It’s to actively and consciously search for the work that you want to keep doing.” “On the pathless path, the goal is not to find a job, make money, build a business, or achieve any other metric.The great work of your life – experiment with different work to find what’s worth doing forever and design a life around liking work – *not escaping it/achieving a metric.Ivy league, consulting) and avoid the uncertainty & overwhelm that comes with figuring what they really want in life
People follow the default path to be seen as “successful” (e.g.The pathless path – experimenting on your own to find a life you want to live vs “getting ahead” on a script others follow – embracing uncertainty & discomfort vs planning/conforming.good grades -> good job -> own a home -> have a family) The default path – a “script” of decisions and accomplishments needed to be seen as a successful adult (e.g.Is it something you’ve been “scripted” to chase or an ideal life which you know you want?Īs I write this, I’m 2 weeks away from quitting my job, so consider that proof that this book is impactful… and to me an essential read. It makes you question what you’re growing, being productive or working obscene hours for.
Paul’s story is so relatable, genuine and packed with lessons that “exceptional” stories can’t get across. It’s not as actionable as your typical self-help book (hence the high fluff rating) but it’s job is to get you to question your own life using Paul’s (the author) perspective & story. This book (or “manifesto”) is a packaged existential crisis.
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